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I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world.

..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum.

“Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!”

I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away…

Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.

David Wong (via thatlitsite)

9 hours ago with 2,567 notes

“I also came to realize that the focus on personhood ignores the fact that a zygote, embryo, or fetus is growing inside of another person’s body.

Libby Anne, “How I Lost Faith in the ‘Pro-Life’ Movement”

This quote just about sums it all up for me. You can’t advocate for the rights of an unborn zygote without subsequently infringing on the rights of the mother carrying it. 

My personhood is worth more than my ability to bear children. The fact that I have a uterus should not make me less deserving of the right to make my own healthcare decisions. 

(via thatsgoldjerry)

1 year ago with 651 notes

“Ask your female friends, if you have any, if they’ve ever walked home late at night with a key pushed through their knuckles, just in case, if they’ve ever crossed the street to avoid a stranger, just in case, if they’ve ever taken the long way home because of the weird guy on the corner, just in case. Ask them if they’ve ever made up a boyfriend to get a guy to leave them alone, if they’ve ever gotten off a train car and moved to the next because you just never know, if they’ve ever shelled out for a cab because men like you were at the bus stop. Do you really want to be that guy?”

Emily Heist Moss, “A Letter to the Guy Who Harassed Me Outside the Bar” (via lavenderlabia)

1 year ago with 12,679 notes

Explaining their decision to support the campaign the Advocates said: “The Sun is a family newspaper. Anyone can pick it up, turn to Page 3, and think that it is normal for young women to be treated as objects. This is just wrong. It is impossible to nurture your ambitions if you are constantly told that you aren’t the same as your male equivalent. It is disrespectful and embarrassing. We need to get used to the idea that women are not for sale.”

puufuu:

Girlguiding’s Advocates statement on The Sun’s page three.

You go, girl guides!

1 year ago with 39 notes

“The problem with No Means No and similar campaigns is that it implies that a person always is available for sex until he or she says no, that sex is always on the table until the person actively opposes it. The positive thing with a culture that unites over the idea that Yes Means Yes is that everyone would need to communicate when they want to have sex, and not the other way around”

“Do we need a consent culture?”  (via tabularasae)

1 year ago with 3,233 notes

sexism in video games PSA:
just because something is “made to sell,” that doesn’t mean it isn’t sexist

1 year ago with 1 note

martinfreeman:

straight girls in locker rooms who think all lesbians are oogling them

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1 year ago with 27,962 notes